Part Three: Personal Relationships

The Seven Types of Human Relationships

  1. Others (our one-on-one relationships)
  2. Our tribes (the various groups we belong to, not the least of which is where we hang out with our working colleagues)
  3. Ourselves (at the risk of stating the obvious)
  4. Things (literally the physical stuff we love to acquire, own, play with, etc.)
  5. Concepts (that is ideas)
  6. The Universe (it holds us all together and includes the spiritual)
  7. Time (this is really cool stuff, in my opinion, but that’s the subject of a future essay)
  1. Our tribe refuses to let us exercise our unalienable right to think or associate;
  2. We let our Need for security get in the way of creating a healthy relationship with others;
  3. We focus so much on our present Needs (e.g., our relationship with things) versus our future Needs (this is where our relationship with time comes into play) that we lack the necessary discipline (future essay) to create long-term security for us, our family and / or our tribe.
  1. Shared values (beliefs, behaviors, norms)
  2. Shared but complementary interests (what we like to do and learn about)
  3. Complementary competencies (they value what we bring to the table and vice versa)
  4. Shared goals (vision, purpose, whether short or long-term)
  5. Respecting our Rights
  6. Helping us meet our Needs
  7. Availability of and ability to share resources

Creators know they will never be truly successful unless they Work with people they trust.

Executive Summary

  • The vast majority of human beings have seven types of human relationships (7Rs) which include: others; our tribes; ourselves; things; concepts or ideas; the Universe, and time.
  • Our Need is to have healthy relationships across all seven types.
  • The “tribes” relationship is one of the most important. As we grow, we become part of groups that fulfill our needs, starting with the familial tribe. We form relationships with other individuals and with certain tribes to help us meet our Need for belonging.
  • When we Work with others of similar values, interests, competencies and goals, we discover that our creative abilities are greatly enhanced. Together we can make / build things faster, easier, better, bigger and more valuable.
  • As Workers, we create a High Trust Companies; places where we belong, contribute, are appreciated and simultaneously feel the company respects us and has our back. This makes us want to participate more and become part of the company’s growth.
  • Creators know they will never be truly successful unless they Work with people they trust.

About the Author

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Mark Abbott, founder and visionary at Ninety.io, is a sought-after business leader, writer and executive team coach. Follow him at https://abbott.work

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Mark Abbott, founder and visionary at Ninety.io, is a sought-after business leader, writer and executive team coach. Follow him at https://abbott.work

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